This blog is written as a part of Preeti Shenoy's book - 'The One You Can Not Have' (TOUCH) Thursday no. 3 writing prompt.
The writing prompt for TOUCH thursday no. 3 is:
Anjali is a character in the book. She has dated 6 men and rejected all of them. She is still looking for Mr. Right. She feels it is hard to get what she is looking for.
If you are a woman, write 3 things (or more) that you really want from men.
Hey Anjali,
I got to know that you are in
search of your Mr Right and have already rejected 6 men. Woo hoo !!! Not bad
;). So, let me tell you that we are travelling in the same boat and I too have
met a few guys (Well! I can still count them on my fingers) and I don’t know
where my Mr Right is hiding. But never mind as it is perfectly OK to wait for
Mr Right than to be with Mr Wrong.
When I was a girl, ahem ahem ;) Yeah, I should say ‘I was’, then I had a huge list that consisted more of
my fantasies inspired by those ‘out of the world’ romantic movies but now when
I see myself as a woman my checklist is more
specific for how ‘My Man’ should be like. Here, I am sharing it with you for a
thought.
A MAN - with a SPINE: Oh! This for sure does
not mean the physical thing that we call a backbone :) , but you got it right, I
mean the real man. My man should be the one who can take a stand for what he
believes in and hence what he says and does i.e. not a player of words but a
man of action. He should be able to make out what is right and what is wrong
with a clear view of what he wants from life. A man with such a personality
will surely be able to take a stand for “US” when required and will never
hesitate to say – ‘Yes! This is my woman’.
RESPECT –
give n take: When I say respect,
I mean respecting me as an ‘Individual’ who has a freedom of thoughts, actions
and expressions, has her own likes and dislikes and is capable of decision
making. Far above, respecting me with no preconceived notions (as there are
many embedded in our society) that being a woman I am supposed to do this and I
cannot do this. Here, family back ground can play a vital role like how a woman
has been portrayed in his family since his childhood – one who is meant to
sacrifice with nothing to ask for or a partner in every walk of life.
TRUST – makes or destroys: I am a working
woman and so I spend 10 hours of my day out in office, working with and meeting
different people and sometimes going out with colleagues. I have so many
friends and we catch up whenever we get time. And in such a case, I want
someone who trusts me, which I believe is the base of a relationship. So,
someone who keeps calling in every few minutes to keep an eye on me or someone
who listens to others and not what I say is a BIG NO!
PARTNER – for life or parents: Well, I am definitely looking for a partner but is the guy looking for a daughter in law more than a partner? Believe me, once I met a guy and the first thing he said was – ‘My only demand from you is to keep my parents happy and the rest is none of my business’ and the same moment I knew that my answer is a NO! I agree that it is the guy who walks on thin ice when it comes to make a balance between his wife and his family and there is nothing wrong in expecting that the girl will take care of the family. However, this is where he has to act smart and keep the balance. A guy entering into a relation must know that while his lady is trying to keep his parents happy, taking care of his wife is for sure his business.
PARTNER – for life or parents: Well, I am definitely looking for a partner but is the guy looking for a daughter in law more than a partner? Believe me, once I met a guy and the first thing he said was – ‘My only demand from you is to keep my parents happy and the rest is none of my business’ and the same moment I knew that my answer is a NO! I agree that it is the guy who walks on thin ice when it comes to make a balance between his wife and his family and there is nothing wrong in expecting that the girl will take care of the family. However, this is where he has to act smart and keep the balance. A guy entering into a relation must know that while his lady is trying to keep his parents happy, taking care of his wife is for sure his business.
P.S: I have a
wish that my man would love to read books.
Apart from these,
l believe, when a guy trusts and respects you, love follows. And other thing is loyalty which is like
common sense to a relationship and yes it is not really common ;).
Marriage is a
celebration of choice for a life time. I hope my checklist can help you in some
way and I am glad to share it with you.
Happy Searching!!!
Edited for the following reason:
As mentioned, this write up is written as a part of writing prompt TOUCH Thursday no. 3, and this write up got a SPECIAL MENTION in the results:
